Maybe your body was never the issue.

For at least 15 years, I hated my body.

Got bullied at school for being overweight, to the point I moved schools.
Whilst the new school helped, the seed was already planted about how ‘disgusting’ my body was - the need for it to change, look thinner, to fit in, to be enough.

And as such, I spent the next decade picking it apart. Criticised every detail. Convincing myself that if I could just shrink it down to a certain size, I’d finally feel confident, happy, and comfortable in my own skin.
 

And in my mid-20s, I got there. I reached my “goal body.”
I was lean, my body fat % was low.
I had some visable abs.
But I achieved this through over-exercise, restriction, and pushing myself to the limit.

And even when I got my “goal body” I wasn’t happy.
Because my body was never the real problem. My mindset was.
 

I see this all the time. We believe that if we could just fit back into that pre-baby dress, or look like we did at 25, we’d finally feel “good”, “worthy”, “enough”.

But our bodies are meant to change. They are not meant to look like they did 10 years or so ago.

Motherhood, sleepless nights, stress, age, hormones, genetics, all of it shapes the body you live in now. The body you’re trying to “get back to” belongs to a completely different version of you - a different chapter of your life.
 

That doesn’t mean you can’t feel confident, healthy, and strong again.
Nor does it mean you just have to “accept” feeling uncomfortable.

But it does mean shifting the focus away from punishing your body into submission and towards respecting it. Caring for it. Appreciating it for showing up for you every single day.
 

The other week, my daughter looked at me and said:
“Mum, your belly is so so squishy, is there a baby in there?” (Thanks darling 🤣).

Old me would’ve fallen into a spiral. Instead, I smiled and said:
“There’s no baby, it’t squishy because it grew two beautiful babies. Isn’t that amazing?”

That’s the mindset shift.

You are not obsessing over how your body looks or doesn't, but appreciating what it does. 
You are showing up and choosing to nourish her, move her, rest her, and respect her.

When we approach our health and wellbeing from this POV, our body often gives you back the changes you were chasing all along.
 

So today, I want you to pause and ask yourself:

💛 What is one thing your body did for you that you’re grateful for?
💛 What would it feel like to treat her with more respect instead of resentment?
💛 What small act of nourishment or love could you give her today?
 

Because real confidence doesn’t come from changing your body it comes from changing the way you see it.
Your body was never the problem.
 

Amy xx